Marriage 73item I am Shia Muslim and wanted to marry a Shia Muslim girl. Her parents put a condition on me that if I buy the house, they would accept me for marriage. It took me two years to buy the house. After I bought the house, I went back to them again with my proposal. This time they put the second condition on me that I will have to put the house on her name before they could agree upon this marriage. I offered to put the house on both of our names, but they insisted to put it 100% on her name. I have 3 questions for you. 1. Can they put the second condition on me since I already fulfilled their first condition by buying the house? 2. Is she right to be upset with me? (She is very upset with me because she thinks I should have put the house 100% on her name, this way we could have got married. I am unable to eat or sleep properly because I am under tremendous pressure.) 3. Could this marriage have been successful? (It looks like her parents turned this marriage into a business deal or they just wanted to secure her just in case of a divorce in the future.) I want to ask that I really love someone. I want that he love me too and he is not of our cast.What will I do now? Please tell me something to read andwhatever thing. So that ALLAH fulfill my wish and I want that the person I love, converted to Shia. Please help me...Tell me what to do? Waiting for your concerns. My question is regarding second marriage. As I am married and having 3 kids aged 11,8,and 5 years. I want to increase my offspring as my wife is not ready as she has some problem related to pregnancy. Can I do second marriage? Is it necessary to inform my wife regarding this marriage? Sir pleases help me. I don’t know what to do. I am in a great problem, to kill myself is the only solution from relieving myself from problem because I didn’t get any solution sir my problem is my dad is Sunni and my mom is Shia and she is sayyed belonging from fourth imam. My dad want me to get marry with a Sunni guy and because of my dad’s fear my mom also want me to get marry with Sunni guy’s love a guy who is Shia and he is from my mom’s relative means we are cousin. He is a true follower of Ahlul bait and he shows me a right path because of him I became a true follower of Ahlulbait. We want to marry with each other and I can’t get marry with any other guy. His parent are agree mean they want him to get marry with me because Estikhara (getting advice from Quran) for our marriage but my dad is disagree. Sir what to do in this case? Sir can we go against my parent and get marry with eachother. I love him very much and I want my children to become a true follower of Ahlulbait. I don’t want to get marry with any other guy. I’ll quit myself from this world if he will not there in my life. Sir Please help. Sir I have lots of expectation from you. Wasallam I am 19 years old; I like a girl of same age as that of mine. We both try to follow each and every rule of the Sharia. We are sure that in future we will get married. But at this age we can’t tell our parents. A bit soon after one or two years we will tell them. Can we talk on phone and meet each other. I am a 30 year old professional girl and everything seems to be fine in my life except the fact that I am still not married. For some reason when I get to meet someone for marriage or when I get a proposal it never seems to work out, and my mother thinks that someone has done something against me. My mother says that some people can tie knots and say a girl’s name so that a girl will not get married and have problems, is this true? Can people really do this and why will someone want to do this against a person? Apparently people that live in the Middle East can do things like this, but this must be very haram. If this is true than how do I remove this spell or is there some special prayers one can do for this? I look forward to hearing from you soon. Wasalaam. I recently got a proposal for marriage and my parents have accepted it and have given their consent. They are very happy about it. Now when the time has come for fixing the dates for engagement marriage, my relatives are not happy about it. They are trying to stop my parents from going ahead with this. I’m afraid they might create problems at the time of my marriage. Please suggest me what do I do in this case. I cannot see my parents getting tensed about this. I am a girl. If I don’t want to get married for my entire life, is it necessary for me to live in my parents’ house or I have the right to buy a separate house for myself even if my parents dislike this act of mine? I am a Shia girl but I want to marry a Sunni boy. Since Islam allows a girl to marry anyone if he/she is a Muslim, can I marry the Sunni guy? My parents say that this marriage will lead to conflicts when we will have children. Then why has Islam allowed us to marry Sunnis when there are problems involved? I am a 28 year old Shia Syed male, who lives in the United States. I do Taqleed of Ayatollah Sistani and am in need of guidance on marriage. I would like to marry a Shia Muslim lady; however my parents have forbidden me to marry her. My parents and I are South Asian IndoPak. The lady I want to marry is a White convert to Islam, and she has adopted the Muslim name Sabeen. She was a Christian and converted to Islam through her own independent studying. I did help her with getting books and pointing her in the right direction, but I didn’t influence her to convert. Alhamdullilah (thanks God) she is a very good practicing Muslim who does prayers, fasts, and the other Islamic obligations. She also constantly reads Islamic books and strives to become a better Muslim. Before making the decision of marriage and talking to my parents about Sabeen, I did two Duaas for Istikhara. The first Istikhara, as advised by Sahib al Zaman, came back as do as I want to, and the second Istikhara, as advised by Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq came back as neither good nor bad for the action I would like to do. My parents who have never met or seen Sabeen, have threatened to disown me and have nothing to do with me if I don’t change my mind and marry someone of the same race that they pick for me. They have gone so far as to say that I would go to hell for disobeying them and that I would not be allowed to attend their funeral when they pass away. I love my parents, but I feel very strongly that Sabeen would be a very good life partner for me. Sabeen and I have talked about all issues pertaining to marriage and a life together, and have been very compatible on an intellectual and Islamic level. We both have agreed to live by rules of Islam and the examples of the Ahlul Bayt. We have also talked about taking care of my parents and she has stated that as my wife, she would do everything to take care of and make my parents happy. However, my parents have already made up their minds without even meeting or giving Sabeen a chance. What is the Islamic ruling on this issue? Am I obligated to listen to the wishes of my parents? From the research I have done, one is obligated to obey their parents in all situations except when the parents are going against the rulings of Islam. I feel that my parents disallowing Sabeen and I to marry solely based on her race and her coming from a different culture is Islamically wrong. Am I correct? Here is what I found in the Quran SURAH 4913 O mankind We created you from a single pair of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other not that ye may despise each other. Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is he who is the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted with all things. SURAH 4135 O You who have attained to faith Be ever steadfast in upholding equity, bearing witness to the truth for the sake of God, even though it be against your own selves or your parents and kinsfolk. Whether the person concerned be rich or poor, Gods claim takes precedence over [the claims of] either of them. [150] Do not, then, follow your own desires, lest you swerve from justice for if you distort [the truth], behold, God is indeed aware of all that you do My whole life I have tried to be a good person and a good Muslim, and I want to continue to strive to be a good Muslim and be successful in the hereafter and in this world. I love my parents and am trying to come up with an amicable solution. Any guidance that you can provide on these questions would be very helpful. I want to marry a girl which belongs to the sect of Sunni and mother can’t agree me to marry her now what can I do, if I leave her she will surely die and if I do mother will not accept my marriage and the girl also convert into Shia please tell me the solution? I have a question regarding the religious significance of being a Syed. One of my friends has proposed to a Shia Sayyid lady, but her family does not want marriage between Sayyids and Non-Sayyids. Please let me know if it is preferred for Sayyids to marry within themselves, or if there is any difference in rank or degree of spirituality between Sayyids and Non- Sayyids. I would appreciate it if you could provide a logical argument or counterargument for this matter, with sources from known religious texts. My son who is twenty one years old got married to a Sunni girl without the approval of the parents. As he is earning and left the parents and family and went far away. Is he not supposed to listened to his parents and marry a girl from our community as we have so many unwed girls in our own community. Also, he said he has converted her to shia. This has created disharmony in the family and both the parents are not talking to their son. The son tried to talk and convey apologies and sorry during the last 3 years, but parents are not agreeing to this marriage. What is the middle course the son or the parent can take, please advise? Much grateful for your advice from religious point of view. I have a question regarding Muta. One of my friends have done Muta with a Christian girl. When my friend asked about the Mahr (dowry) amount she said she will inform about it later. In the period of Muta she is now asking my friend for huge amounts giving one reason or other. Does he have to oblige to her. What are the conditions of dowry in this case? Holy prophet Mohammed (s.a.w.s) said beware of marrying a stupid girl for her company is a waste and her offspring are like hyenas? I wanted to know what this hades means. 12345